About children

Children do not learn in a stressful, angry atmosphere. Kids tend to act defiant when their parents over control them, telling them what to wear and Eat. Be calm and firm about family rules . Defiant and demanding kids receive less affection and more punishment than compliant kids. Withdrawing from a small tyrant is a parent’s natural response, but it increases the child’s fears, resulting in more attempts at control . kids need to experience their parent’s love in concrete ways, so they feel safe enough to relax.
Showing a child by example to say ‘’please’’ and ‘thank you” and not to bark orders, preserves everyone’s ego. It also helps in building the social skills and to keep friends happy. When your child does you a favour reward it with a hug and say” thank you”. Good manners and compliance will become associated with pleasure.
Even when you try to be attentive , respectful and accommodating do not surrender your parental command post. Show the child that you are the commander by using body language and eye contact that tells your child who is in charge. Simply turn off the lights at the appointed time, do not engage in further debate. Bossy children can turn out to be popular, determined leaders or unhappy fearful loners. They look to their parents to be parents-the people who will show them how to tap their potential.